|How Leadership Cons Its Followers
If you're reading this without any context, you may
want to read this musing
Remember the three things I pointed out that I
learned from analyzing the con I was a part of in
- trust and credibility
- play on fear
- apply pressure
- show a way out
Over the years, after I finished laughing at
myself for being a victim and got Laura calmed down,
watched Tom Cruise do the Mission Impossible and road
back on the plane...I've realized that the $200 I
gave them was the best investment of my leadership
development so far.
I kept asking myself, the key to getting
something from someone is to get them willing to
give you what you want, without asking.
Anytime you see this happening, it's the form of
a con. Now, some I'm sure will rail at the fact that
I'm suggesting leaders con followers. Yet, let's
look at how most leadership is done:
- trust and credibility is formed through
- validation is confirmed when people pay you
- fear is constantly in the background because
deep down we fear loss of some kind
- There is always pressure, everywhere you
- The way out is to over time, if not now,
Our families do this, yes? Our partners do this,
yes? Our friends, our boss, or if you're an
independent leader like me, your clients and
You see, it's mostly a con framework.
"We, the willing, led by the unknowing. Are
doing the impossible for the ungrateful, and
have done so much, for so long, with so little.
We are now Qualified to do anything with
Or so the story sort of goes.
There is a key point I want to make, and it's
probably a deeper dive than the pond has water, but
here goes anyway:
Because we don't really know ourselves, we are
constantly under pressure to make choices that are
in most cases leading us in the direction least
likely to be good for us.
In life, how many times have you seen people,
just bail out, to get off the merry go round? You
know that if you stay any longer that you'll go
insane--expect different results from doing the same
ole thing over and over?
The moral of the story?
If you don't know who you are, the you'll
probably get conned into someone you're not.
The ancient gurus are clearly in the lead
here...know your self.
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