Happy Holidays
Most of you know that I’m not the
kind of person to do things on a “regular” basis, but this
idea of a holiday letter has intrigued me as I’ve watched
a few others do them over the years.
Of course, upfront, mine has a special holiday purpose,
so please read on.
As most of you know, 8 years ago I came to visit the
Philippines before setting off to start a second residence in Kuala Lumpur —
I really liked that place and it’s well located, because like some of you, I
realized the world’s center is tilting to Asia — and I wanted a front row
seat for at least part of that groundswell.
What you may not know, is that in 1972, I was a US
Marine finishing up “legal school” in Camp Pendleton, CA. Having the choice
of duty station, everyone I talked to said SUBIC, which meant Subic
Bay, Philippines, a rearward logistics base for what was then, the Vietnam
War; the place to choose.
Days after that choice, and before I got my orders to
ship, the All-Marine Football Team Recruiting Circus came to
Pendleton, and before you know it, no SUBIC. It was
the QUANTICO MARINES for me, playing football again, after
Hiram Scott College in fall of 1970, and in January of
1971, a transfer to the University of Wyoming; I never
looked back until I decided to start
visiting Asia in 2004.
So, 40 years later before setting up my tent in KL, I
jumped on a flight to Manila with eyes wide open, and after a day or two, I
realized that I had found the backdoor to Heaven. The weather, once you get
used to the humidity, is great. Even as I write this, we are
experiencing “#32” (Typhoon KAI-TAK) and what will be most likely a final
Tropical Storm for the year — most typhoons went north this year, but we are
in the middle of one now, it’s la nina, pre-Christmas, and I just
heard we have another forming that Santa will ride in, no less.
Taking
care of a beat-up body is a LOT easier in the Philippines, assuming I don’t
get some rare disease that requires special care, or euthanasia.
Now, the Philippines is a STARK contrast — possibly as
wide a gap between normal and “a.b.normal” as you could get, which makes
things interesting for a person like me. I discovered in midlife that
novelty and independence were strong motivators for me and they keeps things
real interesting to feed my curiosity, I suspect. So, for me, here was this
developmental laboratory of which I could only imagine… and it would be the
next phase of my personal development — it has been… hard!
The kids are both in Elk Grove, California, now.
Both doing so well, and their mom is also there in support — God Bless Her.
I couldn’t do it. Ali is 37 and Katy 36, and relatively newly
married with a new son called IAN, whose 1 year old.
James, Katy’s first son, is 9, and has adjusted as well
as anyone can with a new baby brother stealing the show. John, Ali’s son,
who is 4, was diagnosed with Autism. He is just a great guy and lately
gives Grandpa lots of hugs. As you might know, hugs are something Grandpa
doesn’t want too much of; yet from those boys, I’ll take all I can get.
During my time here in the Philippines, which is becoming more regular as I look to retire here someday, I’ve learned so many hard lessons. Many of those lessons are about poverty and its ugly face for children. So, this time every year I try to recruit some of you to ‘help me, help them’ with some rice.
It’s easy to do, just open your PayPal account at www.paypal.com;
click “send money” to a friend, so they don’t take out a fee, and send to “paypal@leadwise.com”
as everything I get goes directly to purchase and distribute rice to all of
our “MyPALs” who are usually single mom’s or students who are doing
everything possible to lift themselves and their families out of an unlucky
hole they may have been born into.
$25 buys 1/2 sack, and $50 buys a whole sack of rice. I
hope you could spare more, as we NEVER have rice leftover! We will accept
any amount, in case you’re wondering how much is too much.
Here’s why it’s so important during the holidays:
In the Philippines, it’s a cultural practice,
especially among the poor to purchase clothes for their children at
Christmas — imagine the thought of your kids getting “clothes” and being
happy, here in the west!
Well, needless to say, if you have to choose between
clothes and rice, here most Filipina go for clothes and hope for providence
to feed their families… even though rice is more pragmatic and rational.
We, like them, are irrational when it comes to things like this, but you
can’t eat hope.
So, back in 2009, I saw a need to find and give rice to
fill the gap during the holidays (Christmas and Easter), because that’s
about all I found out I could do. Of course, we’ve tried everything the past
8 years to lift people out of poverty, but it’s not easy to do, as poverty
has its own durable nature, and thus requires more than a village, although
that’s a good place to start.
We are basically trying to give them something to eat
during the holidays, when most contract (majority of work in Philippines is
contract work, so employers bypass paying benefits) work ceases and since
most of the country is pay for work, no work aggravates the whole deal
around the holidays — it’s really a conundrum, that’s hard to solve.
My kids will tell you that I load up with clothes every
time I come home; and believe me I have learned to travel light being on the
“road” the last 15 years globally. I still have clothes in Leon, Mexico,
Moscow, Russia, Istanbul, Mumbai, and places scattered in-between because
I’m not a luggage person. So, if you see me, outside of western work,
I’ll be wearing the same thing everywhere it’s warm — and it’s hard to get
this old football body into the cold these days… kind of like the TIN MAN in
Wizard of Oz, I need oil If I knew I was going to live this long, I
would have taken better care of myself (maybe).
Shifting gears…
I’ve got a new book almost finished on DYNAMIC INQUIRY,
which is the culmination of what I’ve learned in 30 years of professional
coaching inquiry. It’s probably too dry for anyone not in the helping
fields, but I wanted to share my experience and mark my 30th year in
coaching, so it’s about done, so to speak. I’m going to write at least one
more book on ValuDYNAMICS to show how I have looked at values and how they
evolve over time — something I started doing back in the 80s, when my own
values were tested, the day my son Ryan died.
I’m headed back to India to speak in January, on a
topic called CONSCIOUS IT, and I think I’ll probably get back to
Russia next year, also. I’ll also be making my regular pilgrimages to
San Antonio, TX, where I’ve had the opportunity to work with a visionary
CEO, and his mission for how banking might be, do, have, become and
contribute, in the future — really exciting times for sure, wrapped up in
what might be a pretty cynical world around us.
Laura and I are no longer married for those of you who
haven’t heard, and that’s all of you, because we didn’t announce. But I’ll
say this, I have never met a better person than Laura, whose loyal to her
family and is a very good friend to me, even as our relationship has changed
over the years.
Here’s the purpose of my letter:
If you have a few dollars you want to share with the
poor in Philippines, all of it goes to buy rice, no administrative fees, no
delivery costs, no anything, but rice… to a lot of needy people whose
holiday will be a lot brighter if we reach down and are thankful for how
lucky we all have it in our busy lives.
Please send a holiday donation through
PayPal to paypal@leadwise.com and
mark it for a friend, so we don’t lose fees. PayPal is good about not
charging for kindness, and I’m happy to have had an account there since day
1 or 2.
The donation goes through LEADERSHIP UNIVERSITY, just
in case you’re wondering, that’s me and some others scattered around the
world, making Leadership Jazz. Especially my business partner who has to
weigh all the ups and downs of working with a crazy person — Gary Gile — I
love you man, you’re always there when we need you here!
Maybe someday, he and some of you will visit us here in
the Philippines, and I’m happy to show you around these 7641 islands!
That’s my update for now, hope all of you have a
wonderful holiday season, and may the wind be at your back!
In gratitude,
Mike
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