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Be, Do, Have, Become, Contribute

In another TPOV, I discussed CORPORATE, as well as pointed out there were three other MetaSystems running that could explain a lot of our behavior, individually as well as collectively.

Over time, people have asked me to make those simpler and easier to understand and a few years ago, I came up with the idea that led to Being, Doing, Having, and Becoming.  They themselves are powerful MetaSystems, and seemingly within the grasp of most understanding because people can identify with them.

In this comparison below, I show you the relationships BDHB have with the Gravesian/SDi System, and the Social Motives of McClelland:
BE – Affiliation – Sacrifice of Self to Get Now
DO – Power – Express Self Calculatedly
HAVE – Achievement – Express Self, Respect Others
BECOME – Avoidance – Sacrifice of Self to Get Later

These relationships are critically interdependent and can explain each other to a large degree, and remain able to explain nuances that are uniquely describable by understanding the directional vector, the density, scaffolding, and culture in which they replicate.

Helpful Hint: While this is just an introduction to the ideas behind why we do what we do, I want to suggest that these systems are inborn in us, in the following ways.

Because of who we are, we inherit tendencies towards some things and not towards others.

In this way, the things we have a tendency towards cause us to "select and use" particular ways more than others.  We become more flexible, fluid, and capable in the use of those tendencies.

The tendencies or preferences actually create a virtuous cycle of their own.

This is how our strengths become more, as well as our weaknesses becoming less relevant, unless we spend a lot of time worrying about our limitations and trying to upgrade them more than necessary.

Action Step: Now that you have been introduced to these ideas, allow them to percolate in your system of understanding of your own, and other’s behavior.

Can you see the influence of these systems in your own behavior, or in another’s behavior?

Can you predict, at times, why they will behave, or how they are behaving?  Can you respect and understand this behavior for what it is?

Want practical info about this entire system, to see it unwound and rewoven into your own ValuSync™ Map?

*With the publishing of the Book @F-L-O-W, Mike began adding “Contribute” to BDHB, which opens the core motive for the 5th Social Organizing System: Contribution, as the first system in a new tier of Value DYNAMICS, which is a warm versus cool system with “express self” characteristics.

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    Mike R. Jay is a developmentalist utilizing consulting, coaching, mentoring and advising as methods to offer developmental scaffolding for aspiring leaders who are interested in being, doing, having, becoming, and contributing… to helping people have lives.

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