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Dynamic Inquiry
There is an
EES (Efficient,
Effective, & Sustainable) way to approach Dynamic Inquiry.
I’ve developed it and used it in every form of inquiry and
dialogue I’ve ever been involved with since I started
professional coaching. It was a learning experience over
time, in which I knew that there was more to this than what I
could see.
So how could I approach learning to
do active inquiry, rather than just doing active listening,
which I later found GOT IN THE WAY of really hearing anything?
This story is short, but long in
the making.
I realized after repeated failures
and sub-optimization that if I couldn’t understand where my
client was, it would be hard for me to scaffold them well. I
didn’t use the term scaffolding then. However, that is the
best description of what we can do through Dynamic Inquiry.
The bottom line?
Learning to use Ping, Probe,
Prompt, Permit, Perturb, Pause, and Pace was the most EES thing I ever put
together. Even though today, I’m hardly an
EES listener,
but the tiny bit I do get, is because of this system of
Dynamic Inquiry.
Fortunately for me, I’ve always
been an "Intuitive" knowing person before realizing how I knew
it, I just did. Sometimes it took years to explain and
unravel the reasons and the scaffolding that already was in
place, only to figure out that indeed, I did know it, just
couldn’t tell you why.
Since, I doubt few people have this
gift to any large extent, I tried to unravel the model of
knowing, and how I used my own gifts to know. Dynamic Inquiry
was born over a decade.
Simply, I look at several ways to
"engage" someone, when I can be conscious about it. In
the event I’m not, I can look at what happened through the
rear view mirror of Dynamic Inquiry.
It takes quite a while to explain
this method. However, I wanted to at least put it in the TPOV
map of FLOS because it’s what led me to inquire about the
BS
nature of things. I wanted to understand why the tip of
the iceberg of
BS can be understood by getting the person you
are working with, to engage, to reveal where they are in the
process of understanding themselves and the BS
Subject/Object
Relationship –> how much “in” the
BS, vs. “of” the
BS.
Here they are, simply to give you an idea:
7Ps: Ping, Probe, Prompt, Permit,
Perturb,Pause, Pace from less invasive to more invasive.
Probe: to get more info about something already there: "Can you say more about that?"
Prompt: to get a specific answer about something based on an implicit or explicit assumption. "Who, What, When, Where, Why, Which, How"
Permit: to encourage disclosure, venting, or revelation. "Will you speak to…?”
Perturb: to incite, or badger (Nebraska term<G>) someone into an emotional explanation. "Is that something that bothers you?"
Pause: to take a breath and give the PBC [Person Being Coached] time to respond.
Pace: how we time things, how fast or slow we allow things to move; how quickly we give cues, structure scaffolding, generate support, or seek to offer lift.
Helpful Hint: Learning when to use each “P” can be Profoundly Engaging. It is a set of tools to help you listen and hear capability.
Action Step: The next time you have an opportunity to consciously engage someone and listen, try shorter, closed-end questions, rather than open-ended questions. You’ll be amazed at what you get with what you thought was a closed-end approach.
In my many years, if someone was interested in engaging, a closed-ended question always revealed more than an open-ended question and it’s counter intuitive once you begin to understand how to frame them, such that they don’t close, but in fact, open people to dynamic inquiry.
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Mike R. Jay is a developmentalist utilizing consulting, coaching, mentoring and advising as methods to offer developmental scaffolding for aspiring leaders who are interested in being, doing, having, becoming, and contributing… to helping people have lives.
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