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Recognition and Regulation

Instead of going upstream to emotional intelligence, or what many have co-opted for self-control issues, the greatest way in which to teach people how to behave is through self-knowledge more specifically what they notice, and how they regulate what they recognize."

In all the work I’ve done with Emotional Intelligence since it became fashionable in the late 80s and early 90s, the biggest TPOV I have come across, which few in the industry even notice, is the set of concepts in psychology regarding recognition and regulation.

This TPOV is really simple, it’s just not easy.

Recognition is a key construct of establishing a system of noticing, and recognizing that unconsciously our systems are wired for noticing what we notice, and to notice that > what we are wired for noticing, for filtering and creating biases.

The goal in regulation is to understand that what we notice becomes a potential for regulation, again based on our inbornness, biases and filters.

In @F-L-O-W, enhancing this natural cycle by:
1. understanding why we notice what we notice, and how biases and prejudices are a part of natural engagement.
2. as our understanding of what we notice expands, and we move into greater acceptance of who we are, we notice how what we notice gets regulated.
3. what gets regulated is also directly linked to our inbornness, and that while it’s difficult sometimes to get a handle on the entire process, it always plays out on us.

We notice that we have a tendency to want to confront people about what is right and wrong.

We accept this notion as we realize it’s part of who we are and what is wired into us as a bias, filter or striving.

Yet, because we know this, we may let some of the urge, or tension around this set of conditions find their way without us, just to notice how we learn about our own regulation.

I think and feel that as this cycle of recognition and regulation becomes less subject and more object, that we relax our notions about the striving, and allow what is a perfectly natural bias, to go through us without evoking the consequences that unfettered process continue as subject.

Helpful Hint: Recognition and Regulation are natural processes of living, or aliveness.  They are occurring even as you read this TPOV, a thousand times a second, your system of R&R functioning to protect, grow, and develop you on the fly.  

Getting involved with this process is easy and requires no purchases of any kind.  Yet, this process is probably the highest leverage developmental tool available.

Action Step: STOP.  Think about what is going on right now, when I say stop.  Do you see the process working, are you trying to notice what you were recognizing and what was happening as a result?  This process of noticing is a meditation in @F-L-O-W.  

Becoming the observer of what you are doing is a process that can teach you about yourself, your biases, your noticing, and your journey.  It’s interesting that all we are making up about what we are doing, is nothing more than striving, using what is a natural process of just unconscious noticing, and what flows from that.

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    We hope you pick up valuable insights, ideas, and tools during this process, which you can use for your own development as well as your work and leadership with others.

    You, Me, and We @F-L-O-W

    Mike R. Jay is a developmentalist utilizing consulting, coaching, mentoring and advising as methods to offer developmental scaffolding for aspiring leaders who are interested in being, doing, having, becoming, and contributing… to helping people have lives.

    Mike R. Jay
    Leadership University

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